“Do not be embarrassed by your failures, learn from them and start again.” Richard Branson
Life is not fair. The quicker our children learn and accept that, the better their lives will be. Parents have a huge responsibility in the care of a child. We must meet their needs: physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Our job is to instruct them, so when children become adults, they won’t need us anymore. Every child has a specific will that God has ordained for their lives. When we micromanage or control every aspect of their life, we stunt their growth into becoming what God’s intends for them.
I overheard part of a conversation between a young husband and wife. The wife said, “I was not allowed to watch television, ever.” Her husband nodded and explained the subject at hand. I believe her parents tried to protect her from harmful things influencing her, but life is messy and unfair. Unfortunately, children will see and find out things that are dangerous and scary. It is better for them to know what to do than be overwhelmed by the evil in the world.
My daughter is at the age, where she can be responsible for the proper care of a dog. We recently adopted a rescue puppy. However, I know my daughter well enough, that she will forget things and relax on some of the responsibilities. Potty training is the messiest (literally) part of this process. However, every accident this puppy has made in the house; my daughter has had to clean up. It only took a couple of puppy bathroom accidents for her to realize, I better take this dog out regularly. She is learning this dog needs to be taken care of for the dog to be healthy.
Parents are not doing their children any favors by sheltering or guarding their lives against the difficult things in life. God allows us to experience pain and suffering to either help others or for us to make a change. God is not a helicopter parent and neither should any of us.
Lesson Learned: Life is not fair and the sooner we and our children accept that the better off we will be.
“Dear Heavenly Father, forgive me for trying to control my child(ren). Help me to let go of the control and learn to mold and shape their lives as you intended. I will trust in you for the will you have for their lives. In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!”