Recovery from Perfection

“Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit to sustain me.”  Psalms 51:12

There is a couple, Al and Marilyn Sargent, who are neuro-psycho emotional researchers in South Orange County, California.  They have an amazing practice where they train, coach, and consult with people to better than personal lives and/or their businesses.  Their techniques are simple and effective. I have had the pleasure of getting to know them in the last month.

There was a quote on one of their exercises, “recovery is more important than being perfect!”  This quote resonates deep within my soul. Social Media and the Film Industry promote perfection through good lighting, filters, photoshop, and airbrush.  Sadly, it tricks us to thinking this is reality.

I had to adopt a gluten free diet because I had a diagnosis of gluten allergy through my blood work.  My favorite food is pizza. Pizza is all about the crust. A tasty gluten free pizza crust is hard to find.  I found one at Trader Joe’s and decided to give it a try.

The directions told me to bake one side of it, flip it over to cook the other side and then top it with my favorite toppings and broil it for a few minutes.  Seems easy…

I went to flip it and the crust broke into 5 different shaped pieces.  I was so angry, I wanted to quit and dump the crust into the trash. But something stopped me.  I decided to still cook it and see if it would work than give up.  The pizza crust turned out fine.  So, I recovered. I didn’t strive for perfection, I decided to put forth the effort, make it work, and not waste food.

There are times in life, where we would rather give up than see it through.  Where would we be if God did that with us? We mustn’t give up because it isn’t perfect.  In our lives, things will get messy and uncomfortable. God doesn’t want us to give up because it isn’t perfect.  God wants us to rely on Him and recover.

Lesson Learned:  Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful.  Sometimes, we need to recover and it all works out.


“Dear Heavenly Father, forgive me for wanting things to be perfect all of the time.  Thank you for guiding me to be resourceful and for the wisdom to follow through. Help to never give up!  In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!”


The Love of the Father

“My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those He loves.” Proverbs 3:11-12

When you love someone, especially a child, you want to take care of all of their needs. You don’t want them to feel pain or fail. It is easy to do everything for them instead of letting them do it themselves.

My husband is a middle school math teacher. The students are still young and immature but think they know everything. One Friday afternoon, my husband came home with a migraine. He took a nap hoping to sleep it off. Just as he fell asleep, I heard a person yelling outside of our front gate for us to open the door.

I looked out the window and recognized the man from a neighborhood Halloween party from a few months back. I went outside, and he asked if this is where my husband lived and he wanted to speak to him. When I said, it was our home; he explained that his son needed to turn in a math assignment or he couldn’t go to the concert that night. The father was there to deliver that assignment.

I stood there, floored. Many thoughts were running through my head, such as, how did he know where we lived? This father had some nerve coming to a teacher’s home unannounced to turn in an assignment for his kid. And maybe he should let his kid feel the pain so that he doesn’t do it again.

In my anger, I lied (sorry, Lord!) and said he wasn’t home. The father seems displeased and ask if I could take the assignment and give it to my husband. I accepted the homework and closed the door. His son is never going to take responsibility because he father will always clean up his mess after him.

I realized that I do that with God. I expect God’s grace to ignore my sins and still take care of me. God has a big heart and is full of grace. But there are times where God will let us suffer the consequences and feel the pain of our sinful actions. It seems strange, but this is a way to display love. If we make our kids feel the pain of missing out because of their mistakes, then they learn and become more responsible. When God allows us to feel the pain from our sin, we then will try not to continue to sin and come to a place of redemption.

Lesson Learned: Sometimes we have to feel the pain to have growth in our lives; otherwise we will never change.

“Dear Heavenly Father, forgive me for my sins. Help me to learn from my mistakes. Thank you for loving me and for your discipline. Remind me to do what is right than ignore responsibility. Help us who are parents and teachers to do the same for our kids. In Jesus’
Name, AMEN!”